Our presence being noticed, not in a very good way. People stare, people talk - they criticized. So what ? All I know is that human beings are born with flaws in their soul.
Always, people will remember the most negative things related to us rather than good deeds we acted upon them. If you are fat, then you are clumsy. If you are slim, then you are just too thin. If you are fabulously flamboyant, then you are just another sissy in a soft fag's body. If you are tall, then you are the giant freak in town. If you have blemishes on your face, then you are ugly. So tell me, whatever we project people will tend to perceive the most negative attributes we carry.
Sometimes I wonder, was it out of jealously that makes one into labeling other people with those adjectives ?
I would be angry if one when being labeled, feels defeated and helpless. They should in fact learn how to channel those labels to something "empowering", turning it into something that they can be proud of, something that they can celebrate.
Are we to change people's perception then ?
One may be imperfect, but then what are the ways to make the imperfections flawless. To me, it's just so easy.
- Always start with believing in yourself. Never let criticism brings you down, as the truth is when people criticize you, they just want to expose your vulnerability.
- Self-acknowledge that you are not perfect. You have flaws ! This will make you more humble than anyone else. People respect humble being.
- Flawlessly balance your imperfections with other personalities/attributes that you are proud of. (e.g. I might be fabulously flamboyant, but then I shout-out loud with my great sense of humor. Comically, people like to be with me then.)
- If you are proud out it, then flaunt it. Why hide it ? Sometimes, your imperfections will help you to stands out from the crowd. Don't get me wrong, but then I mean it in a positive way.
- Don't let your imperfections change who you are. Changing bad habits, definitely yes. If it helps to improve your life, then work towards that direction in perfecting your life.
When I do pay attention to people who always "worship" my imperfections, I empathize them so much as when they look into the mirror, all they see would be their own reflections. A strong reflection that reminds them on their own flaws and imperfections.
Oh my, we are somewhat imperfect and have flaws all over us. But I am different from you as I learn how to make my imperfections flawless.
Flawlessly written by,
The Self-Proclaimed Perfectionist
*Shout it out if you are happy with your flawless imperfections.